“Don’t it always seem to go
That you don’t know what you’ve got
‘Til its gone”
This was originally from Joni Mitchell’s song Big Yellow Taxi (that I always thought of as the Paved Paradise song). I take it to be an observation that often we don’t know how good something is until it’s replaced by something not so good. There is a flip side to this.
Sometimes we don’t realize how unhealthy something is until we are in a better condition.
This concept has been articulated in conversation by two different people in completely different conversations recently.
Our very own Lance “the tech guy” was telling me about the trials and tribulations he’s been experiencing with his flock of peacocks. He said that once the flock was back together, he felt a huge relief, much larger than seemed warranted for. What he realized was that through the whole ordeal, he hadn’t realized how stressed out he was and how much the situation was effecting the rest of his life.
Then today, I was talking with a delightful woman who expressed, basically, the same sentiment. We were talking about living situations and she said that she hadn’t realized how much a past living situation was effecting her outlook on life until she moved into a better situation.
These examples are so common! On the one hand, it’s truly remarkable how adaptable we humans are to be able to deal with such a variety of situations. On the other hand, it indicates how important it is to “take stock” on a regular basis of all facets of our life. When we ask ourselves if a situation is good for us, do we answer, “YES!” or is it, “well, better than before,” or “well, better than what she has over there.”
One of my driving forces during the ’90’s was that I didn’t want to wake up when I was 55 with regret that I hadn’t lived a full life. The positive side of this statement:
throughout my entire life, I want to be able to look back with a smile when observing how all of my decisions led me to where I am today.
My plan for achieving this? Going for the “Yes!” and passing by “well, maybe…”